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[Dec. 6th, 2007|10:20 pm]
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[salcantell]
Name: Sal
male/female/trans?: female
Gay or bi?: I always have trouble with this question.  I'm gay.  I'm a lesbian.  Thats what I'd like to label myself, because I don't want to be called a fence sitter.  People who call themselves bi catch a lot of flack from 'legitimate' lesbians.  I'm a gay girl with a boyfriend though, so what does that really make me? To hell with this labeling buisness.  I'm just a girl. 
Age: 18
Single or taken?: taken
Interests: art, literature, coffee shops, pretty girls, horses, firefly, love, sex, conversation, and a good story.

I just moved to LA, and although I am in an amazing straight relationship, I'm looking to meet fun people out here.  I need someone to take me on a tour of my new home, and to make some new friends. 

Also, my boyfriend and I have been discussing pursuing an open relationship - I know the risks involved there; jealousy and weirdness, not to mention possible scary STDs and crap if one isn't careful, but I'd like to hear from someone for whom this has worked, because i know that it has worked for some couples.  Any thoughts?
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[User Picture]From: sherbertglasses
2007-12-07 04:35 pm (UTC)
Gay or bi?: I always have trouble with this question. I'm gay. I'm a lesbian. Thats what I'd like to label myself, because I don't want to be called a fence sitter. People who call themselves bi catch a lot of flack from 'legitimate' lesbians.
Good for you! Go with that mentality! I'm the same. I hate that lesbians think I'll leave them for a man. Why am I more likely to leave because it might be a man? Wouldn't another lesbian be just as likely to leave you for another woman? They don't think I can settle down with a woman and that's not true.
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[User Picture]From: salcantell
2007-12-08 01:57 am (UTC)
Exactly. But people are insecure, and they cling to things they don't understand and lay their insecurities on that. Why does it have to be one or the other? People are beautiful and lovely, both male and female, so lets go both ways, then.
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[User Picture]From: salcantell
2007-12-08 02:02 am (UTC)
Ooo, thanks for the advice and for the new word. Polyamory, many loves, right?

I love your icon, by the way, its probably the best thing ever.
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[User Picture]From: salcantell
2007-12-08 04:11 am (UTC)
Its a beautiful word for a beautiful thing. Been boncing around the communities for a while now...it just sounds so nice. All these people can do it... so can we.

I can't wait to show him too.
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